Sun, 16 Jun, 2024


By Asmita Bista

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Love is a beautiful feeling. It may not always be, particularly for your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. We feel love for our parents, friends and relatives. This beautiful feeling may be horrible when we do not get the same love by our partner as expected. We may get depressed, feel lonely and in the worst case, may get lovesickness.

Lovesickness is described as the informal syndrome covering physical as well as mental symptoms of rejected or one-sided love or absence of love ones. Lovesickness is not only a feeling like love, but it is the mental disorder which can impact our health. It contains elements of intrusive (images and thoughts of the beloved), obsession, impulsiveness and delusions that lead to mental illness. The symptoms of lovesickness are:
  • Heart palpitations, shortness of breath.
  • Rapid mood swings.
  • Weakness, Loss of appetite.
  • Self-doubt, confusion, awkward behavior.
  • Anxiety, depression.
  • Fantasy (daydream about your love).
  • Insomnia (inadequate sleep).
  • Obsessive thoughts over loved ones. (Example, constantly checking phone, Facebook, email, etc. thinking they might receive messages from loved ones.)
When the person whom we love the most goes away from us, we feel depressed, but somehow we do collect strength to overcome that situation. Having a breakup after the serious love, most of the people take 6 to 24 months to get over such heartbreak and move on. In some of the cases, a person may even commit suicide.  Sigmund Freud regarded lovesickness as a mental illness that involved compelling illusions. Lovesickness is regarded as a dead-end that puts true love beyond reach. It is hard to bounce back from lovesickness since a person with lovesickness carry the thoughts of his loved ones in his mind for several years or maybe even several decades. However, we can get over the lovesickness with following suggestions:
  • Bring positive energy into your life.
  • Reduce your stress. Meditation or yoga can help.
  • Eat a healthy diet.
  • Be social. Spend time with your family or friends.
  • Burn those bad memory, resulting lovesickness.
  • Keep yourself busy. Playing games, watching movies, etc. can be some of the options.
  • Sleep well.
  • Get productive.
 Lovesickness does not go away too soon, as wounds don’t heal overnight. It takes some time to get over the pain. A person might get into worse condition as lovesickness can be incredibly dangerous for those who do not seek help when they are suffering from lovesickness.